recently i have been having problems with friends that have not been supporting my weight loss. I find it interesting because some of them were the first supporters, giving me tips, words of encouragement, while others have been there for me in the past, but recently started to get hateful or defensive about my weight loss. A friend of mine lost her weight a year before me and i thought it was amazing and that she was such a role model. So a year later (last christmas eve) i decided to get going and try to change my life. I went to her about a lot of help including proper thnigs to eat, good exercises, and ways to keep the self esteem up, but as time has progressed, she has been less there for me weigh wise. A few weeks ago i was talking with her and another friend and they told me they thought i was a stop and go type personality- stoping one weight loss and going with it later and then stopping again and that really offended me because i have not stopped once since december- having now lost 71.6 pounds and going down six pant sizes. I was just upset that they didnt have the faith in me and that they still didnt after all hat ive been through. Another issue I have beeen dealing with is people not being supportive of the fact that i am changing my exercises up ever month or so to give a change so my body doesnt get used to it and stop losing weight. i had been walking 3-4 miles and running either bleachers or around the track for a couple miles but my legs have gotten really fit/tight and if you knew me that is a good thing and a bad thing at the same time- chicken legs run in my family and they are really showing now. So, i decided to change it up- still getting the cardio i need but focusing the weight loss on my stomach and arms. I am doing taebo videos and arm workouts with my resistance bands and 5lb weights. I am still losing the same amount of weight ( alittle delay with the new workout which is normal) but still losing and now focusing on my stomach and arms which have improved some. I have been having trouble with friends though- one friend tried to start a fight the other day because she thinks it is stupid to stop running and do taebo and that it is ridiculus that i am thinking i can not focus on my legs- which i know that i will still lose weight in my legs but this way i can focus on my stomach more. Why is she so defensive? She told me that she didnt think i would make it in my weight loss because i struggled at the beginning with not like certain foods and workouts so why is it now that i am finding my own workouts and eating habits and still losing weight is she not encouraging me?? why are people around me not supporting the one real thing i am trying to do with me life???
September 16, 2008 at 7:24 am
bummer. I think your plan sounds great. And as far as I know, the goal is to keep moving. As long as you are moving and exercising, you are getting healthier.
Good for you! Keep on movin’.
September 18, 2008 at 5:53 am
You are doing a great job and I think it sounds like there’s some jealousy going on with others. Keep making those healthy choices and continuing with your new lifestyle. Sending hugs your way.
October 15, 2008 at 5:56 pm
You are an encouragement to me. I weight 290 now and love reading your posts. As I was reading this one, I was getting my undies in a bunch for you. Duh!! Support girls! Maybe you need to print the definition for them. I think it is jealousy too. It’s always easier to have the “fat friend” around then you don’t feel as big. Now that you are “giving up” that title, they are lost. I say: YOU GO GIRL!!!!!